Over the years, Bridal Fantasy has had some pretty amazing Relationship Guru?s that have written for our magazine and we feel that they just have to be shared with our Bridal Fantasy Blog readers as well. With stimulating discussion topics such as ?Experiencing Spiritual Union?, ?Relationship Revelations?, and ?How to Stay Married? . . . let our special guest authors Dr. Deepak Chopra, Blair and Melissa from Results Now, and Steffany Hanlen a Personal Performance Coach help you to strengthen your marriage, love, and respect for one another.
Experiencing Spiritual Union
Why We Get Married
?There are many reasons people get married, but I think the best reason is because they deeply love each other and dedicate themselves to each other to fulfill a spiritual a spiritual love and destiny that they could not attain on their own.
Many marriages are actually a way of forming a complete person out of two incomplete persons. When such marriages are successful - a tricky business, since it happens on a hidden, unspoken, sometimes unconscious level - the spouses can say ?we are one person? and actually mean it. But the deepest union goes a step further and becomes a mutual partnership of two people who each want to be whole. This kind of marriage, a spiritual union, is about filling in our gown gaps, growing to fulfill our individual potential, but with an intimate ally. Relationships become whole as we become whole.?
To find out more about the author Deepak Chopra?s, click here.
And to read the rest of the article, click here (Page 163 of online magazine and 161 of the physical magazine).
Relationship Revelations
The Top Three Rules to Making a ?Happily Ever After Life?
Rule #1: Have fun!
You?re getting married and you are probably having fun in the relationship. Great, remember in this time in your life together and most importantly keep the fun in the relationship. The ?fun? might change as the years go by, but ?fun? is the key building block to a long healthy relationship.
Rule #2: Listen!!
We mean really listen. When you are listening, find a way to hold your partner important. Not more important than you, and not less either. When you hold each other important in any discussion you are really listening for your partner?s different viewpoint. It?s really quite amazing what you might hear . . . even when you think you?ve heard it all before or you are so sure what they are going to say or do.
Rule #3: Don?t judge.
Evaluate your relationship before marriage and in your marriage. Evaluation improves your chances for long-term success. There are three key criteria in particular to assess yourself, your general preparedness for a long loving and enduring marriage. These three key evaluation criteria are:
1. You, as an individual - your traits and skills to handle conflict, related stresses and communication.
2. You and your partner?s abilities to communicate with each other.
3. The situation in whih you and your partner are currently influenced by, such as family history and significant role models in your life.
These three factors can predict marital dissatisfaction, satisfaction or the long-term success of your relationship.
To find out more about the authors Blair and Melissa, click here.
And to read the rest of the article, click here (Page 87 of Part 1 of online magazine and 85 of the physical magazine).
How to Stay Married
The ?Happily Ever After? Starts Now
?So how does one stay married after the magic of the romance and honeymoon period are over?? Well there are actually ?7 things that may help newly engaged couples navigate the journey into the unknown?, but it?s a blog, not a novel . . . so I?ve listed 4 of the 7 . . . scroll down to the bottom of the blog for the link to the rest of Steffany?s article.
1. Begin with the end in mind!
Decide how you want your married life to be, look and feel. Discuss with your partner the day to day expectations you have about what you think marriage is and how you would like to create your life. Pre-marital courses are great as they allow you to bring up your thoughts, goals, and dreams within the safety of a facilitated program.
2. Take a truthful look at the marriage of your partner?s parents.
Whether we know it or like it or not, we are all products of our environments. Look at all the positive and negative aspects of each others upbringing and decided which qualities you want to bring into your own married life.
3. Ensure you are fully disclosing yourself.
This is one of the hardest. For example, if you are bringing into the marriage years of debt from schooling . . . it is much easier to deal with this type of thing before you get married than to have to deal with it afterwards. We all have the fantasy that if he/she loves us enough, they will forgive us. Maybe so, but wouldn?t it be better for the marriage if the disclosure of ?negatives? happened prior to a lifetime commitment. This way a choice can be made with all the information.
4. Know that just when you think you have it figured out, IT will all change.
Life happens. Sickness, health, death birth, moving, job loss, menopause, weight gain, hair loss . . . If there is a chance that anyone of these will happen to you, then have a plan to stick it out together.
To find out more about the author Steffany Hanlen, click here.
And to read the rest of the article, click here (Page 46 of Part 1 of online magazine and page 114 of physical magazine).
Just Ask Gay . . .
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